Posted on: 1 September 2016
When you are thinking about proposing to your significant other, you want to make sure you don't pop the question too soon. Timing can be everything. You want the moment to be romantic, you want it to be memorable, and most of all, you want to hear the word "yes!" If you are ready to buy an engagement ring and propose, you should ask yourself these 3 questions first:
Have you been together longer than a year?
While many people get engaged before they have been together for a year, asking your partner to marry you before this time can make it a bit riskier. There's something about having only been together for a certain number of "months" that can make some people feel it's risky to get proposed so soon. Once you reach that one year mark, your partner may feel more secure.
Have the two of you discussed marriage?
If you and your partner haven't even talked about marriage, then you may want to test the waters before you follow through with purchasing an engagement ring and proposing. There are many tricky ways you can go about bringing up the subject without being too obvious. You can put on a romantic movie and work your way into their thoughts on marriage. You can also discuss married friends or family members and ask how your partner feels about certain aspects of their marriage, such as how soon they got engaged, etc.
Do you guys want the same things?
If there are some big unresolved issues between the two of you, then you may want to make sure you work through those issues before you buy a ring and propose. For example, if you definitely want kids and your partner doesn't, then this is something you want to be sure you can get past before committing to marriage. One of you is going to have to be willing to change your mind. By having large things like this unresolved, there is a chance that your partner may not say "yes".
Once you feel confident that your partner is going to say yes and you feel right about your timing, then you are ready to pick out the engagement ring. Once you have the ring, you want to propose in a romantic manner. You can do it while the two of you are alone; this may be best if you aren't sure how it's going to go. Or, you can propose in front of friends and family; this is good if you're sure you know the answer because your loved ones get to share in the moment.Share